Dear Abby: Fiance loathes pets

Expensive Abby: My boyfriend and I have gotten engaged and we are remaining married in a year or so. Anything about him is amazing, and I’m fired up to share my existence with him — other than for 1 fret. I have been an animal lover my overall daily life. Soon after living with him this past calendar year with my two cats, I have bit by bit arrive to the realization that he completely loathes the thought of animals.

Besides my incapability to fully grasp this (he has never experienced a lousy past experience with an animal), it helps make me concern his compassion (or absence thereof) for all points dwelling. Need to this be a red flag, worthy of reconsidering our engagement?

— Critter Lover in New England

Dear Lover: Maybe. Not everybody is an animal lover, but it’s ordinarily for the reason that they have not had animals or been exposed to them. This does not signify they deficiency compassion for all factors living. It simply signifies they have not interacted with unique species.

Even so, you say your fiance completely “LOATHES” pets. If you approach to have animals in your household in the long term, you Have to have some significant discussions about it and lay your playing cards on the table. If you do not deal with this NOW, it could be a offer-breaker in the future.

Expensive Abby: As a repeated traveler, there is the inevitability of being seated around youngsters on airplanes. I simply cannot blame children for becoming a tiny little bit fussy. Normally, they appear miserably bored. My unfortunate observation is their mother and father feel to be unprepared to engage their young ones.

When I traveled by airplane with my youngsters, I normally planned in advance. I packed a lot of healthful treats, a several shock treats and game titles, guides and artwork materials to have interaction them. I also talked to them in advance about the vacation, the plane, who we had been likely to check out and what we were going to do right after we arrived. Strangers would thank me at the finish of the flight for my children’s fantastic habits.

Time on a plane is a great option to forgo the hustle and bustle of a standard working day. Use the downtime to have entertaining and enjoy specific bonding time with your kids and, with any luck ,, give the other passengers a crack.

— Mile-High Participate in Time

Dear Mile-Higher: I’m printing your clever ideas in the hope that as family members vacation in the coming months, they will be taken to heart. I’m not undertaking this for the reward of airline travellers, but alternatively the ease and comfort of the kids associated. Thank you for sharing your views with my readers and me. You could not be an angel, but today you have gained your “wings.”

Dear Abby: I discover myself frustrated 90% of the time because I’m fearful of death. Do you assume LGBTQ people today are doomed immediately after loss of life? Will we go to hell? I’m homosexual and I fear each working day about it. Make sure you settle my nerves.

— Stressed Out in Ga

Pricey Stressed-Out: I’m happy you requested. You should stop worrying, due to the fact you are earning your individual hell correct below on Earth. LGBTQ men and women are no more “doomed” right after loss of life than are straight people today. The misguided specific who planted that strategy in your head justifies that fate, not you.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Get in touch with Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com.